Adoption Star

Practice Questions and Answers for Adoptive Parents

adoptive parents

• 1. Who is the driving force for wanting to adopt? 

• Me (definitely) 

• Me (a little bit more than my spouse) 

• My spouse/partner (definitely) 

• My spouse/partner (a little bit more) 

• Both want to adopt about the same 

• 2. Will this driving force dynamic cause conflict in your relationship?

• Yes

• No

• Possibly

• 3. What age child would you prefer to adopt?

• Newborn (under six months) 

• Infant (newborn to 2) 

• Preschooler (3 to 5) 

• Primary school (6 to 10) 

• Middle school (11 to 14) 

• High school (15 to 18) 

• 4. How firm are you on the age selected above? 

• Absolutely firm

• Willing to explore slightly older/younger

• Not sure at all

• 5. Which of the following racial heritages would you be willing to consider in an adoptive child? (Select all that apply) 

• Any Child

• Asian

• Black

• Caucasian

• Caucasian/Black

• Hispanic

• Native American

• Multi-Racial

• 6. Which gender would you prefer in your child? 

• Girl

• Boy 

• Either

• 7. Would you consider twins? 

• Yes 

• No 

• 8. Would you consider siblings?

• Yes

• No

• 9. Which of the following disabilities or risk factors would are you willing to consider in an adoptive child? (Check all that apply) 

• Alcohol exposed (occasional) 

• Alcohol exposed (frequent) 

• Drug exposed (occasional) 

• Deafness 

• Developmental disabilities (mild)

• Developmental disabilities (moderate)

• Developmental disabilities (severe)

• Mild or medically correctable condition

• Smoking exposed 

• Emotional/mental disorders in family

• Emotional/mental disorders in child 

• Premature birth 

• Club foot 

• Cleft palate or lip 

• Down Syndrome

• Epilepsy in child 

• Epilepsy in family 

• Blindness

• Diabetes in child

• Diabetes in family

• Conceived through rape 

• Conceived through incest 

• Nothing known about father 

• Nothing known about mother 

• 10. Do you feel you are stable in your relationship as a couple without having children? 

• Yes

• No

• Unsure

• 11. Will friends and family members be supportive of your plans to adopt?

• Yes

• No

• Unsure

• 12. What level of openness are you willing to consider with birth parents?

• Identifying open adoption 

• Open adoption without sharing identifying information

• Exchanging letters and photos only 

• Completely confidential (closed) adoption 

• 13. Where would you be willing to go to adopt? (Select all that apply) 

• Only in our state 

• Neighboring states 

• Anywhere in U.S.

• International 

• 14. Have you put an adoption budget together?

• Yes

• No

• Don’t know where to begin

• 15. When and how do you feel children should be told they\'re adopted?

• As early as possible 

• Mid- to late-childhood 

• As adults 

• Only when they ask 

• Only when they find out 

• Never 

• Not sure 

• 16. Would you support/assist your child if he/she wanted to search, contact, or have a relationship with his/her birthparents? 

• Yes 

• No

• Don\'t know 

• 17. Will you or your partner change your workload or work schedule outside the home after the adoption? 

• Yes, I will stay at home with the child 

• Yes, my partner will stay at home with the child 

• I will reduce my work load to part time

• My partner will reduce his/her work load to part time 

• Will remain the same 

• Already stay-at-home

• 18. Are you ready to love an adopted child as much as one you gave birth to biologically? 

• Yes

• No

• I think so

• I don\'t know

• 19. Would you prefer to continue with infertility treatment before seriously pursuing adoption? 

• Yes, I want to

• No, I don’t want to

• My partner wants to, but I don’t

• My partner does not want to, but I do

• Not sure

• 20. How long are you willing to wait to adopt? 

• Up to six months

• Six months to 1 year

• 1 year to 2 years

• 2 to 3 years

• However long it takes